Even though they all hold a dildo on your crotch, there are different options for different kinds of sex.
You can use it to fuck a butt, for sure, but that’s not kinky for everyone. You can choose from pretty velvet, regular underwear, good old kinky leather, and something in between. Some people like strap-on sex so much it becomes their “regular sex.”
Pick a harness that makes sense for your relationship and the sex you plan to have.
If you iron out all the squeaky details of normal healthy bodies before you get started, you’re more likely to have an enjoyable experience. Your dildo and harness are going to be very near mucous membranes and bodily fluids. If you’re pegging somebody with this thing, it’s going to spend a decent amount of its life nestled up against the germiest part of your partner’s body.
You want to buy something that can be easily cleaned with soap and water, made of a nonporous material. Even if you’re using it with a vagina, you don’t want anything growing on the harness to cause an infection. Remember that you’re going to be pulling a used dildo backward through the ring, so make sure you can clean it properly!
How to choose a dildo: Everyone says it, because it’s really important: It has to be made of a body-safe material and have a flared base. Other than that, it’s personal preference. 100% silicone is far and away the best choice for strap-on play because it’s flexible and easy to clean. If you do get a cheaper jelly dildo, put a condom over it.
You probably already know if you want one that looks like a penis or not, but know what your partner wants, too. Will they enjoy looking down and seeing a big ol’ swinging dick?
A small dildo can be surprisingly effective, especially on your butt, so look for one that’s small and slender, preferably with a slight curve. Once you know how you feel about that one, you can get a smaller, larger, or weirder one. Make sure the dildo base and O-ring are compatible. You want it to feel secure in the harness but easy to place and remove.
Now that you have some information, here are the strap-on harnesses that meet our rigorous standards:
Very good quality and fits well - get $8 off with code 'SUBTASK'
The Crotch Rocket is an excellent new offering from our partner Locked In Lust. Full disclosure, they sent us one to try out. The Large fits comfortably on the 5’8”, 180 lbs tester. It was a little loose on the 5’4”, 115 lbs tester.
We really liked the nonporous vegan leather construction, which can be cleaned in soapy water. The harness is black with lots of kinky buckles to hold it on securely. The O-ring is very large to accommodate some ammo.
What really sets this harness apart is the crotch straps go around the wearer’s genitals so they are still accessible.
Try pairing it with a cock cage for some serious misery.
One of the current industry standards. Good quality - 20% off for students.
These soft, unisex pegging briefs are a budget-friendly and nonintimidating starting point.
After using them, you can toss them in the wash for the next go-round, unlike others which require manual washing.
Try wearing these comfy briefs all day or during a night out to get yourself psyched up for some spontaneous fun.
Most classy option - 20% off for students.
A delicious piece of functional lingerie.
The red velvet and lace-up detail are pretty and the curve will *make* your booty pop, but it can still hold up to some real action. It also comes with a set of O-rings to get a good grip on your dildo.
Plus, the wearer’s dangly bits are accessible for all kinds of fun! This piece has unisex sizing, so it’s perfect if you want to feel like a fancy lady or a sissy.
Easiest for beginners - comes with dildo
Strap-on play can feel overwhelming, and not always in a good way: There are so many things to think about and all the toys have to work together.
This beginner’s kit is ideal because it gives you one of everything, and they’re all good enough to keep but easy to upgrade if you’re feeling fancy.
This harness comes with a high-quality, nonphallic silicone dildo that’s on the smaller side, perfect for beginners. The soft webbing straps are fully adjustable and you can throw the harness in the washing machine for extra-easy cleanup.
Good option for smaller men - comes with dildo
This harness is built for a hollow dildo that can accommodate a penis or a vibrator.
It can be used by and for anyone. We like its simple construction and ease of use- it fits up to a 69” waist but it’s easy to trim the straps for a smaller wearer.
It comes with a comfortable hollow dildo but can be used with anything with a wide enough base. The O-ring snaps in so it’s easy to swap the dildo out.